If you are reading this article, you are already on the right path. Taking the time to be informed and learning about what it looks like to make an adoption plan for your baby, is a great first step… and one you don’t have to go through alone. Here, we’ve compiled a great list of things to consider as well as steps to take when looking for unplanned pregnancy help for you and your baby.
What does it look like to “consider adoption?”
The answers to these questions will differ from birth mom to birth mom, but our experience shows us that most expectant mothers consider adoption for very specific reasons. Some of the top reasons we have seen as we counsel these women are as follows:
- the desire for their child to have a father
- the desire to finish school before parenting
- the desire for their child to have a stable family
- fear of raising a child with special needs
- surviving rape or abuse
- already raising other children as a single mother
- religious beliefs and/or family values
Any expectant mother is able to consider adoption as an option and while each of these women may have different reasons to consider making an adoption plan, they all show the same strength by being willing to make that consideration at all.
If you’re thinking about putting your child up for adoption, it is showing that you desire to make the best plan for her child. At a moment in life when you may feel weaker than ever, you are showing courage by considering a life-giving decision for your child despite what that may mean for your future.
Make sure the information you receive is accurate
It’s crucial that when you’re looking for information about how to find an adoptive family for your baby, you receive correct information about the process of making an adoption plan. Make sure it is free of misinformation and/or coercing from those in your life.
Adoption is giving up but rather making a plan for your baby. You should be able to get all of your questions answered without any difficulties.
How to get started and who can you trust
Listed below is a “quick start” guide for any woman who is pregnant and considering adoption, whatever the reason.
- Find a non-profit agency whose focus is on the Birthmother
- Call, meet and interview the counselor before making any decisions
- Ask questions! Ask to speak to a former client that placed, and/or read testimonials
- Be informed of what families are approved through the agency: are they are well equipped? educated about openness in adoption? encouraged to honor their birth mom?
- Discuss the advantages of each type of adoption: open adoption, semi-open, and closed
In order to help you make the best decision for you and your baby, we encourage you to speak with a pregnancy counselor to discuss your specific needs and situation.
