With two young children already to care for, Aosha chose to place her baby boy for adoption because she knew she couldn’t give him the life he deserved.
Frequently Asked Questions
Absolutely (if that is your desire)! We have lots of prepared families who are already screened and trained. You will share with your local counselor all your desires for a family, and then look at profiles of families that meet y our desires. If you would like, you can meet the family, or ask them questions so you are confident they are the right family for you and your baby. You can find out things like what they like to do, how they will parent, what life in their home would be like, and much more! You decide what’s important to you (Will they have siblings? Do they travel? etc.) and then take the time to learn about, and even meet, the families you consider. We want you to be informed and confident about your decision.
You get to choose the amount of openness you want in your individualized adoption plan. Every adoption looks a little different, but many women desire a relationship with the family and their child, and Lifeline’s families desire to know their child’s birth mom. If you desire, you can receive letters and pictures, and even have scheduled visits, with the family. Lifeline can help facilitate and navigate the relationship between you, the adoptive parents, and the child.
While placing your child into an adoptive family comes with sadness, loss, and grief, each option (parenting, adoption, or abortion) is a difficult one and comes with difficult feelings. Most women who make an adoption plan say those tough feelings are paired with great hope, peace, and possibility. You will know you’ve made a responsible, loving decision for your child. We are committed to helping you think through these feelings and how you may experience grief before making a final decision. Our post-adoption support team is available to you for a lifetime after you place your baby.
It can be hard to make a decision that isn’t supported by family and friends. It is good to listen to people you trust and seek input. Family and friends can do that for you; we advise you seek input from a professional like Lifeline, as well. While family and friends may have good intentions, they may not understand adoption. We can help you find the words to share your decision with them, whether in conversation or through a letter, and we will be here to talk afterward. We can help educate your family about newborn adoption so they know the control you have in the choice of family and long-term contact with your child, if you choose.
Mothers who put the care and well-being of their child before their own desires are self-less, loving, and courageous. Your child will know that it was because of your great love for them that you chose their family. Through open adoption, you can write letters or tell your child in person how much you have always loved them! We also train our families to celebrate their child’s adoption story and to honor you, the birthmother, in their home.
If you choose to have an open adoption, you can decide how much you’d like to hear about your child as they grow. You can receive pictures and updates, and even visit them, if you want to!
Adoption is courageous and sacrificial, but it is not the easy way out. It takes thoughtfulness, commitment, and selflessness. You are making a responsible decision by considering all your options for the health and well-being of your child and placing them with loving, prepared parents.
Our adoptions are not done online or over the phone. You get to meet your worker and the family face to face. All of our adoptive couples have been carefully and thoroughly evaluated to ensure their readiness to provide a stable and loving home for a child. Additionally, they are trained in the value of an open adoption. In the same way we serve you as a whole person, we assess our adoptive families. We do not stop at background checks and financial assessment, we assess their marriage, parenting abilities, and ability to care for the child emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.