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If you are facing an unexpected or unplanned pregnancy, you may be scared and lost trying to figure out what you need to do. As you’re looking into your options, chances are you may have read or heard opinions from multiple sources. First, we are grateful that you are exploring your options – after all, that’s the only way to make the best decision when you are faced with a big decision.

You may be wondering, “should I consider adoption?” The short answer is yes! But that answer is followed by, “is adoption right for you?” Maybe. Or maybe not. Either way, it’s important that you understand what adoption looks like for you and your baby.

Thankfully, you do not have to be alone on this journey! We would love to walk alongside you as you process your pregnancy options and help you to make the best choice for you and your baby. One way we can help you with your decision is to help clear up 3 misconceptions that are made in the world today about women who place their babies for adoption.

Misconception #1: “She put her baby up for adoption.”

A birth mother does not put her baby up for adoption, she makes a loving, intentional plan for the long-term care of her child. She is putting the good of her child above the desire in her heart to parent him/her herself, after spending time determining whether adoption or parenting was the best course of action. She’s learned that being a parent is more than “keeping” a child. She has considered the financial, emotional, spiritual, and physical needs of her child and determined placement is the best option. She didn’t choose this lightly. This can only be done by the selfless, loving strength of a mother.

Misconception #2: “I could never give up my baby.”

This phrase is inaccurate because a birth mother is not giving up her baby for adoption. She is also not “giving away” her baby. Birth mothers can work with the best adoption consultants to find educated and approved families looking to adopt. Birth mothers determine the family they want their child to be in, and how much contact they want over the years (like a closed, semi-open, or open adoption). They are saying that the success and health of their baby is more important than the loss they feel in the moment. While this is incredibly difficult, it is not done without thought, planning, and sacrifice.

Misconception #3: “She is giving up.”

Far from “giving up”, birth mothers are making an active, thought-out plan for their child. It takes planning and courage to choose what is right for your baby, even if it is painful for you. Adoption is not the right choice for every woman or baby, but those who know that it is the right choice for their situation should be respected and valued.